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My name is Dave!
I am a gay, sober dude living in Boston, Massachusetts. Being queer and sober hasn’t always been an easy journey.
The male lover world is intertwined with drinking and drugging from the jump. As a adolescent queer making my way into the gay scene, I was more than happy to dive in headfirst with drugs and alcohol.
It made me undergo accepted and took the edge off being social in a room packed of people. I have always been anxious, and alcohol and drugs took that anxiety away and made me the life of the party.
After getting sober it was a whole brand-new world.
I had to figure out how to be social and fun without drugs or alcohol. I am extremely fortunate that I have a fantastic support system of wonderful people who helped guide me through.
I was swept up by sober gays who had been sober for many years who showed me that we can still do anything and everything we did while using, sober.
They showed me that life only gets better after you decide to abandon your addiction experience behind and hug sobriety. I am so grateful to all those people in my people who stood by me as I got my legs back.
Pride, for me, is that community.
My sober family is the r
Sober Gay Adventures
Welcome to Sober Queer Adventures. A place for gay men in recovery to come together and travel the society with accountability, fellowship and support. Traveling sober can be difficult for many of us. There’s the temptation and romanticizing of drugs and alcohol while on vacation, and many of us fear those temptation. And you slap the word “gay” on that vacation package and the itch to link in on the party doubles.
But at SGA we offer a sheltered travel experience with other gay men who are in the same boat as you. Each trip is personally created with the sober gay guy in mind. Dining, exploring, and enjoying the night being together is sure to set you up for triumph. And when there are free nights, we offer optional activities and also a list of meetings if you happen to be a twelve stepper. Your sobriety is as much of a priority as having a fantastic vacation.
So come unite Sober Gay Adventures as we start on an electrifying excursion in some of the most exciting cities in the world. Look the sites, bite amazing food, and meet some recent friends along the way. Because at SGA we suggest you fellowship and accountability all over the world.
Would yo Don't ask me why I said yes to a party at a queer bar in New York City on a random Friday night in June. It didn't make much sense: I had been sober for five years, and the bar was filled with bottles of vodka and tequila. But I was determined to verify I was fun even if I didn't juice. What intimidated me most that Friday night was being perceived as a boring gay by the "twinks" who invited me. And there was a lot to prove; they knew every Ariana Grande song. I got sober at 20 in the middle of my sophomore year at college. Yes, campus police finding me passed out after I attempted a break-in while dressed as Bugs Bunny may have been a signal that something was erroneous. But what actually started me on the route of recovery was when I threw a cup of cranberry vodka on my ex's face. Every hour I drank, I didn't feel like myself. It was as if I were the queer cousin of Dr. Jekyll and Mr. Hyde: Dr. Rectal and Mr. Pryde. Even though I have been sober for some time now, I'm still learning how to be myself as I try to navigate what it means to be sober in lgbtq+ space I hadn’t considered how it would feel to be a sober gay man in a community where alcohol and partying play such a huge role. The truth is it feels lonely at times. In the early days, familiar feelings of not fitting in meant I isolated myself from the collective I once felt so at home in. They say the opposite of addiction is connection, but what do you perform when connecting with your society means being in spaces that don’t promote healthy authentic sober connection? Over the last five years it has become easier; I know where I yearn to spend my energy. The reality for me today is that it does mean very few interactions in the spaces I have concluded add nothing positive to my life. It means spending time in innateness, running sober community events and eating (lots of) delicious food. As the conversation about the want for queer sober spaces begins to gain traction, and with 25% of gen Z reportedly choosing to be sober or moderate in attitudes to alcohol, I can’t help but touch hopeful that the next generation feel safe enough to be themselves without wanting to numb the experience. Proud and Sober, the online and in person collective II used alcohol to aid connect with other lgbtq+ people. When I got sober, I had to re-learn how to be myself in queer spaces.
Beyond the Bar: Gladly queer, proudly sober